Windsor Parent - May/June 2015 Issue | Page 14

Untying the knot? Kaysandra Curtis Your children should be your number one concern, says divorce, relationship, and leadership coach Kaysandra Curtis Kaysandra Curtis started Curtis Coaching and Mediation in 2012, bringing extensive divorce experience with her after one divorce. “One is enough,” says Kay, author of the forthcoming book How to Get a Divorce Without All the Drama – The 7 Step Divorce Recovery Process. Kay believes that you cannot force someone to love you, but with the discovery that the love is gone in the relationship couples will have to be able to let go with out creating and adversarial divorce, or all of their savings and their children’s inheritance will go towards paying legal fees. When you create conflict that takes many legal hours to be resolved you are generating income for your lawyer, and taking away money your hard earned saving from your family. While you may eventually win, ask yourself what is the cost of winning. For example if you are fighting for $20,000 more and pay $15,000 to get it, then your gain is only $5,000. “So my advice to you is to come to your divorce with honesty, integrity, and clarity on what would be best for your family moving forward regardless of the reason for the divorce,” says Kay. “And be smart in the fight.” Your children should be your number one concern. If you listen to family and friends about getting even, you will be filled with resentment and will have difficulty moving forward. Get the help you need it might be a coach or therapist to help you with the unresolved emotional barrier that will prevent you from healing. If you are able to unpack the emotional baggage of the shock, anger and resentment of a divorce which is primarily what causes the majority of conflict in the uncoupling, you will be able to continue to interact as a family and enjoy watching your children grow up. While Kay’s primary focus is in divorce coaching, her skill set is balanced by a successful work experience as an intensive care nurse at Hôtel–Dieu Hospital for over 12 years and as a mediator after earning her Dispute Resolution certification from Windsor/York University in 2001. In response to her clients’ needs to get through the emotional impact of their divorce and the fear of how they are going to redirect their lives, Kay developed the Divorce Recovery Factor Assessment—DR Factor—which all coaching clients must take before she coaches them. Join our 11th Summer Science Day Camp! and other events, visit science principles and applications 930 Marion Avenue, Windsor, Ontario SCIENCE DAY CAMP 9 AM – 5 PM July 2 to August 28, 2015 Tickets Include FREE ADMISSION Interactive Science and to the ELGIN COUNTY RAILWAY MUSEUM House “SOLD” Names in Real Estate JULY 18, 19 & 24-26, 2015 Hosted By At The St.Thomas-Elgin Memorial Centre 80 Wilson Ave • St. Thomas,ON Tracy Johnson Sonya King Media Partner: Day Out With Thomas™ Thomas the Tank Engine & Friends™ Based on The Railway Series by The Reverend W. d Awdry. © 2015 Gullane (Thomas) Limited. Thomas the Tank Engine & Friends, Thomas & Friends and Day Out Wi k ith Thomas are trademarks of Gullane (Thomas) Limited. © 2015 HIT Entertainment Limited. © 2015 MEGA Bran nds Inc. All rights reserved. MEGA BLOKS and the MEGA BLOKS logo are registered trademarks of Mega Brands In nc. 14 Windsor Parent - May/June 2015 Sales Representative 226-347-8342 www.houseSOLDagents.com Sales Representative REQUEST REALTY INC. Brokerage® 519-982-0525 www.b4ubuyorsell.com