this column who wakes up and
says, “Hey beautiful, (or
handsome), we are going to have a
fabulous day today!” Not on this
end of the column. It is more akin
to… “Oh My God! Another gray
hair, another wrinkle! You look like
you were rode hard and put up wet
to dry!” Our personal “dragons”
like to attack us every day. When
you feel your best, when you feel
your worst, they are waiting around
the corner to barrage you with
insults and memories of past failures. The best weapon against
these “dragons”? “Hey beautiful,
(or handsome), we are going to
have a fabulous day today!” Every
onslaught should be met with this
defense. At first it may seem weak,
and you still fall under the prey of
these personal strikes, however, if
you say something positive
comparable to the above sentence,
you will grow in strength, you do
learn to love you where you are in
your growth, you can learn to love
your body and the space you
occupy.
look upon your past mistakes as
learning experiences? I know, I
know...some of us need to touch a
hot stove more than once to learn
it will burn us. (*grins
knowingly.) As for others, really
examine what we are angry
about. Nine times out of ten we
dislike something they said or did
because it is one of our own
character flaws. Looking back,
there may be times when they did
something we find intolerable, such
as lying, cheating, selfishness or
disloyalty. Again...anyone reading
this column who has not
committed any of these
relationship ending actions? I am
not just speaking of romantic
relationships either. If a friend
commits these acts, it is almost
worst than a partner. Forgiving
someone or ourselves frees us. We
no longer carry the burden of not
speaking, dredging up old
memories with painful thoughts,
and the negative energies that
surround these incidents. Forgiving
ourselves allows us the freedom of
loving ourselves. Feed the love not
Finally, Forgiveness. Guess who we the “dragon”.
need to forgive first? You are
All in all, practicing these four
right...ourselves. Instead of feeding elements in your role play and your
fodder to the “dragons”, why not real life will help you adjust to any
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