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That same bullet proceeded with its path of destruction as it entered a nurse’s arm which it traveled down her arm and exited her wrist. Then onto the third woman, the bullet entered her abdomen and remained there until the surgeon removed it. She actually kept it in a small jar. We met on one occasion during mediation proceedings with my attorney. I was presented the 1 nine Millender bullet that connected three strangers for a moment in time, which I politely declined, there was no need for me to keep it.
After my injury, I took on whatever was to come. My ultimate goal was to get home to my three year old. I didn’t get any time to grieve, as I was told that’s what folks face. My mind was simply it happened, I must keep it moving, my life wasn’t over, I had to do everything from a seated position.
Life goes on as it did. What I didn’t like in the beginning was learning how and when to use the bathroom. Pain was unbearable, but I was told through physical therapy and with certain medications, it will get better over time. I do recall thinking about the pain wondering how other people with SCI live in so much pain. It was hard working through the pain but there was no other options for me. I couldn’t quit, my baby was waiting for me to get well so I could come home.
I learned how to do everything from my chair. I raised two children, drove my vehicles, and cleaned my entire house. Climbed up and down stairs for two years after purchasing my first home. I eventually put a small elevator in so it would be easier for me to get around the house.
The best advice I would give to someone who is newly injured is to seek out agencies and support groups. I managed to do well without much support. I wasn’t aware of anything support-related when I was first injured. After meeting others in recent years, especially after going to Nationals Ms. Wheelchair America Competition, I met so many empowering women on wheels. These women shared how having a good support system would’ve been nice after injury and having someone who understands what having a spinal cord injury means. I’m grateful to have now made lots of friends from that experience. My last piece of advice is to remember Life is what we choose it to be. Being mindful is of great importance. I believe where there is breath there is life so make it great while we have it. Embrace each moment.
-Shawnique Cotton