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Gwen from Raleigh, North Carolina writes: I was with my boyfriend for 6 months. Everything was cool up until the day before Christmas when he wouldn’t answer his phone or return my text messages. After New Years, he called me and said he wanted me back. I know the dating game, so that was not going to happen. Let's just say I have a new man who seems to want to celebrate the holidays with me.
Tameka from Raleigh writes: I think you should breakup before the holidays if the relationship is going nowhere. If it’s not working it’s not working. The time of the year is meaningless.
Research
Askmen.com did an article on this very subject back in December of 2011. They actually have a list of how to do it the most responsible way. It looks as if this is not just a Well Magazine question. People all over are asking it and giving tips on how to do it.
According to Sodahead.com David McCandless used more than 10,000 Facebook status updates to determine when people are most likely to split up. What else did he find?
Mark your calendar for Monday, Dec. 20. From his research, he was able to conclude that this time of year breakups are most likely to happen.
Reports
Dr. Doreen Lynn, psychologist and author of, "Sex for Grownups", writes to ABC News, "This is the season to be needy and greedy as opposed to the message that we try to put out." It evokes incredibly high stress and depression, culminating statistically in New Years being the highest suicide date. The reason this happens is that we have the media myth that this is supposed to be a happy, wonderful and joyous time." We agree with Dr. Doreen Lynn, it can be a stressful time of year. However, we will add that this is also the best time to re-evaluate our relationships and decide if things are working or not. We can conclude that this time of year, people are ensuring that going into the New Year, they have what they want. Breakup or not, consider whats best for you!
Holiday Stress
1. Keep things simple.
Do what works for you and your family.
2. Create a spending budget.
Often times people put themselves in an uncompromising financial positions to live up to the moment. You must consider that your temporary spending decisions can remain with you for years.
3. Make a holiday plan
4. Create travel arrangements
5. Be realistic.
Don't overcommitt your time or resources. This is a time to be joyful and at peace.
6. Do only what you can. Don’t over extend yourself
7. Delegate responsibilities to others in your family
Seven Ways to Eliminate Stress
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