“Be intentional
about honoring and
respecting your
husband in words
and actions.”
how he lead with such a gentle, kind
spirit. Because Alex was being a
godly husband, it made me want to
be a godly wife. So, I started studying
what it meant to be submissive.
I realized that when we do things
the way the Lord intended them to
be, life is so much better. I learned
that submission doesn’t mean a
life of servitude and mistreatment. I
learned that being a godly wife was
way easier than I thought it could be!
What I discovered through this journey
was that I had a wildly incorrect
definition of what being submissive
meant. Everywhere we look we are
getting the same message… Control
them before they can control you!
The world tells us that our husbands
are dumb and should be treated
as children. We are encouraged to
complain about them and talk down
to them. In most situations, we are
praised for “showing them who’s the
boss.” Sadly, this message is not
producing the happy marriages that
we want to have.
For too long, I believed the lies, that
I had to assert my dominance, and I
know I am not the only one! So if that
is not how the Lord intended us to be,
what is the right way?
Honor and Respect
through Words
There are many ways that we can
honor and respect our husbands. I
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want to focus on the two ways we can
do this with our words. The words we
speak to him and the way we speak
about him to others is so important.
Choose words that will build him
up and spur him on. Brag on his
strengths and extend abundant
grace in his weaknesses. Men thrive
on words of affirmation. If you want
to see your man rise up and be the
husband you know he can, speak
that to him. Equally as important are
the words that we speak to others
about our husbands. Our husbands
need to know that we are for them
and not against them. We prove this
by speaking well of them to others.
Words are just one way that we can
be the wife we are called to be!
On our one year anniversary, I
rewrote my wedding vows for Alex.
I apologized for being harsh and
promised him that I would do my
very best every day to be the wife
God called me to be and the one he
deserved. I laugh and tell people all
the time that my husband had to
teach me to be submissive and it’s
the honest truth. Have I always gotten
it right? No, but it is worth my best
effort because Alex is worth it, and so
is your husband.
Be encouraged, you can be the wife
that the Lord created you to be and
it is not a burden to bare! It is a
sacred privilege! ❤
Guest article by Tara Payne
Co-creator of A Beautiful Adventure
A Christian Marriage Blog
We are to treat our husbands with
honor and respect. Chances are,
you are married to an amazing
man. (I know I am)! A man that you
chose to spend your life with for
multiple reasons! Be intentional
about honoring and respecting your
husband in words and actions. Use
every opportunity you get to show
him how much you love him! Build
him up when he does something
good and encourage him when he
falls short! Talk him up! Brag on him
for being the good man he is! When
it comes to a good husband they
take the good that we give them and
multiply it back to us in unimaginable
ways! They deserve good things
ladies. Let’s be the ones to give that
to them.
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