Realize forgiving is a spiritual, supernatural exercise. In fact, it is impossible to truly forgive others without God’s help. God has forgiven tens of billions of people, He also has the power to help you. You might say a simple prayer like this: God I admit I can’t forgive (insert name) with my own power. Please help me. Help me to understand how much You have forgiven me, so I can forgive the person who has hurt me.
You can’t truly forgive unless you have grasped the extent of the violation that has been done against you. With the help of a counselor, minister, or another professional, you need to seek to understand what happened to you when you were sexually abused and why it hurts so much.
Now it’s time to make the big decision to surrender. Let go of your deep desire to get even with the person who has violated you. Come up with a prayer or statement announcing your decision. For example: By an act of my will, and God’s power, I give up my rights to get even with (insert name). I make a commitment that when those feelings come over me again, I will release them.
Make a choice to have compassion on your violator. In one sense they should be pitied. We’re not making excuses for them, but we’re only saying they are pathetic, and desperately need our compassion. One way to show compassion is to pray for the person who has hurt you. Jesus said, Pray for your enemies. He knows it is impossible to continue to pray for someone, and still hate them.
Move on. It’s time to stop dwelling on what happened. It was not your fault this happened to you. Something happened to you that violated you and that's not okay. You didn't have a choice in the matter but you do have a choice to try to move on with your life.
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