The “high” of a new relationship causes you to rush in without getting to know someone first. You become infatuated with them. Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love at the beginning of a relationship. It is characterized by urgency, intensity, sexual desire, and or anxiety, in which there is an extreme absorption in another. This intense attraction toward another person is not necessarily a reliable indicator of whether you are in love. The “high” of infatuation will always wear off and if no time has been spent on developing trust, respect and selfless love, couples are left confused, disillusioned, and devastated. Many times people imagine a relationship to be better than it really is, just so they can feel that sort of cloudy, fuzzy, state of giddiness that makes everything else in life seem small and boring in comparison.
“I completely change when I have a new guy – I’m overly nicer than I normally am, I bend over backwards for someone I’ve been dating for 2 days or 1 week, etc, and I do anything to make them fall for me just that much more. Once I feel them growing distant, I try that much harder. I become that clingy girl that everyone hates…But I crave love. Crave doesn’t even describe it. If I won the lottery, I would give up every last cent of it to be completely devoured by love.” Hilary