Analyst) or an attorney if they need a QDRO (Qualified Domestic Relations Order), which is
used to divide retirement assets.
In other cases, the parenting plan takes center stage. The hardest issue to “divide” in a
divorce is the children. Mom and Dad are used to being with their children all the time and
can’t imagine what life will be like without waking up and seeing them in the morning or
kissing them good night before bed. Creating a parenting plan that keeps both parents feeling
connected even while physically apart is easier in today’s technologically advanced society.
Reminding parents that cell phones, skype and facetime are wonderful tools for staying in
touch can lessen the difficulty of the proposed separation.
When choosing a Divorce Mediator, do your research. Ask friends for referrals, go on-line,
call the mediator and ask questions. Most mediators will offer a free consultation for you and
your spouse to meet her/him and see if you’re a good match. While you want to make sure
they have the right credentials and background to support your situation, you also want to
feel comfortable with one another as you are going to delve into the inner workings and
intimate details of your marriage.
I spend a lot of time volunteering as a mediator in the local court and also am a trained
facilitator for the required Parent Education courses in Massachusetts. The most important
thing for people going through a divorce is to keep open communication. Remember that
your children have a unique relationship with your spouse even if yours is changing through
this process. You are all going through a grieving process and it will be different for each of
you. Be available to support your children and you will all be happier throughout the process.
Jody Comins is a Divorce & Family Mediator in the Greater Boston area. Her company is called
“A Better Way; Divorce Mediation”. She has been involved in the Boston community for over 25
years and can also facilitate LGBTQ divorces.
For more information go to http://www.divorcemediationabetterway.com
For more information go to http://www.divorcemediationabetterway.com