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Do I admire and respect her as an equal regardless of what is being; discussed, proposed, disagreed with,
questioned or her just exhibiting plain old skepticism?
Am I careful not to be condescending due to my “self-imposed” male prowess as it relates to politics and other
matters of worldly concerns?
Am I prepared to protect her and her honor in all situations?
Do I project my fears and lack of self-confidence onto her?
Do my flaws dictate how I respond to her needs and concerns?
Am I prepared to be that quintessential provider to the best of my ability?
Can I cry with her?
Will I genuinely celebrate her and her victories?
Will I be responsible, dutiful, trustworthy, and loving to her, and our children?
Will I love her unconditionally?
Finding myself brings me full circle within a realistic perspective to; own my flaws,
work to correct them, do not blame others for mistakes that I made which may or may
not have resulted in causing unfavorable situations and circumstances of a personal
nature. Maintain an open mind to life’s challenges, see, read, process and think for
myself with an honest eye, mind and to allow space for others to realize their own
flaws and to grow within themselves as we grow into the we that we perceive
ourselves to be.
In finding myself I realize that I know no one better than I know myself, I work diligently to ensure that my vision is
not skewed because I refuse to see what is before me and it may not be what I have been lead to believe, sight
unseen.
As I crown my Queen, I place her on the throne of my heart, realizing that she is not “something” to behold and to
be owned, but a treasure that is to blossom and seek her level of comfort within.
Melvin Casey Lars
www.dyingonmyfeet.com
Lars is the CEO-Founder of, Brighter Futures
Incorporated, a multifaceted academic consulting
company, The positive power of one is the empowerment
of many. Lars’ latest publication is “Mothers and Their
S’Men An Introspective View at Mothers Rearing Their
Sons”. He is co-producer of the Dr. Vibe Show, a weekly
columnist for the Good Men Project, and a former
NAACP President in Muskegon, MI. He is most proud of
his instructional tenure at the infamous George
Washington Preparatory High School in South Central
Los Angeles. During his tenure; Lars served as head
football coach/athletic director and administrative
assistant to Principal, Dr. McKenna.
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