Pernilla Lillarose. Awakening and Embodiment Coach; Certified Hakomi Practitioner. Pernilla helps you cut through to Clarity, Trust yourSelf and Live from your deepest Truth. For more information: www.lillarose.com
Why Did This Happen To Me?
by Pernilla Lillarose
I am sure you've heard it before that if you want to be in a loving relationship with someone, you have to be in that loving relationship with yourSelf first.
I wasn't always in a loving relationship with mySelf and struggled and suffered through plenty of relationships hoping to be loved and accepted in the areas I didn't even know I was rejecting – even hating myself.
Just like in any other relationship, it takes time to get to know yourself deeply and learn to accept yourself fully. Then the question: “Why Did This Happen To Me?” won't bug you anymore. You'll know the answer and you'll know how to make sure it won't happen to you again.
The Pain Of Leaving MySelf
Going through my share of relationships where I didn't honor my deepest truths in order to be loved and liked by 'other' was the painful foundation that catapulted me into a new Relationship with mySelf. The pain I felt from leaving mySelf finally forced me to look at how I was ignoring what deeply mattered to me.
Being in a Loving relationship with yourSelf is a process of meeting and listening to all the parts that you have rejected, ignored and disowned.
When I wrote my book 'Imagine Being Kind To YourSelf' it sounded like a foreign language. The spiritual teachings I was involved with seemed to suggest to leave the whole 'self business' behind. So where did 'being kind to yourself' fit in? Luckily, today it has become an accepted, essential part of living an integrated awake life.
How do you build a loving relationship with your Self?
Although reading about 'How to' isn't enough, it may inspire you to start taking a new approach.
It always starts with bringing awareness to the areas where you are 'not your own best friend'.
Start with one part of yourself that you are resisting, rejecting or ignoring. Then try this:
Allow it instead. Breathe into this part of you and create a space for it without the familiar energy of trying to get rid of it. This space prepares you for the next step
Listen to that part. What is truly important to you? If you listen to it right now, what is it trying to tell you?