likely be worse as teenagers, so
keep the moving option open.
say something or keep my mouth
shut and mind my own business?
I would collect every toy they
leave on your property and put it
in a box in your garage. Take a
photo of damage or mess caused
by the kids before you clean up or
fix it. Put those dated photos in
the box with the toys. When the
parents eventually come to ask
about the tricycle/hula hoop/toy
car, hand over the whole box with
a smile nailed on your face. If that
doesn’t embarrass them into better
parenting, it’s time to flip through
the real estate guide and hope for
more responsible neighbours next
time.
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Love, Julianne
Dear Julianne’s Joy,
I discovered inadvertently that my
best friend's husband is having an
affair that has been going on for
almost a year. Should I say
anything to my best friend? My
alliance is with her but I know the
messenger always pays the price
in such situations it seems. Do I
Talk or Stay Silent?
Dear Talk or Stay Silent,
This is a tough one. It’s true
that your alliance is with your
friend but put yourself in her shoes
for a moment. Would you like to
know if your husband was having
an affair? The first thing you need
to consider is the source of the
information. Is it rumour or
hearsay? If so, then staying silent
is your best option.
If you have real, personal
evidence of an affair, and you
think it would be beneficial for
your friend to know about it, you
could try talking about it with her
as a general ethical dilemma and
see how she responds. This is her
life, so allow her to take the lead.
If you pose the dilemma and she
says that she wouldn’t want to
know, I would stay silent. If she
says she would like to know, find
a quiet spot and a lot of chocolate
and tissue, for you are about to
have a very difficult conversation.
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Love, Julianne