The Whole You Issue 4, December 2016 | Page 21

match up with her actions. If they do, it might be safe to pursue the relationship again, but if they don’t, you already know how to protect yourself by walking away. Letting go of resentment and anger is a choice you make, and if it adds nothing positive to your life, decide to close that chapter on your relationship history and don’t beat yourself up over it. Love, Julianne thinking of them often and ask for updates on how their lives are going. Don’t neglect regular mail or the phone either. In our instant culture, an old-fashioned card in the mail or an evening phone call to chat carries serious significance. Your nephew or niece will know that you care when you take the time to stay in touch. Love, Julianne Dear Julianne’s Joy, Why do I feel guilty wanting to spend time with my husband away from the children? Does wanting him to myself once in a while make me a bad mom? Guilty Dear Julianne’s Joy, How do you build up a relationship with nephews and nieces when you don’t live near each other? Far Away Dear Far Away, Internet options like Skype, Facebook, Instagram and FaceTime make it easier than ever to stay in touch long distance. Tell family members that you are