The Whole You Issue 3, November 2016 | Page 4

Nurture is Valuable: Self Care Nurture begins with self care. If we don’t look after ourselves, how can we possibly care for anyone else? It’s the oxygen mask philosophy from the safety speech on any airplane: you must get your own mask functioning before you can assist others. We all know that you cannot pour from an empty cup. The physics of this is not up for debate. But as women living in our modern culture, we often give to others when our own energy tank is bone dry. Our society tells us this perpetual nurturing is expected of us as mothers, wives, friends, daughters, employees, volunteers and citizens. Most of us know from experience that exhaustion, stress and burn out are the by-products of looking after others when we do not prioritize self care. When we are younger, we can often keep this charade up longer, but as we age the damage to our own supply of resources becomes more evident. When we choose not to value our own self care, we chip away at our reserves of inner strength. One day, we will need that energy bank to be full so we can offer help to