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The Valley Catholic commentary October 7, 2014 17 Spirituality Fatherless at the Depth of our Being By Rev. Ron Rolheiser Anthropologists tell us that fatherhunger, a frustrated desire to be blessed by our own fathers, is one of the deepest hungers in the world today, especially among men. Millions of people sense that they have not received their father’s blessing. Robert Bly, Robert Moore, Richard Rohr, and James Hillman, among others, offer some rich insights into this. We suffer from being fatherless. However, in its deepest root, this suffering is something far beyond the mere absence of a blessing from our biological fathers. We tend to be fatherless in a much deeper way. How so? Some 25 years ago, a French philosopher, Jean-Luc Marion wrote a book entitled, God Without Being, within which he offers a very challenging interpretation of the famous parable of the Prodigal Son. We’re all familiar with the parable: A father had two sons. The younger comes to him and says: ‘Father give me the share of the property that’s coming to me.’ His father shares out his goods. The younger son takes his share, leaves for a distant country, and squanders his property on a life of debauchery. When he has spent everything, he finds himself hungry and humiliated and sets off to return to his father’s house, where he Long Pants By Gregory R. Kepferle When anti-apartheid leader Nelson Mandela was in prison on Robben Island in South Africa under a life sentence, he struggled to see the humanity in his captors while maintaining a sense of dignity and hope in his own humanity. He encouraged his fellow inmates by advocating for small victories. Black inmates were forced to wear shorts as a symbol of degradation, for only “boys” wore shorts. “Men” wore long pants. Through persistent advocacy and by developing a human connection with his oppressors, Mandela affected a conversion of the heart, of his own and of the guards. The concrete sign of this conversion came when the inmates were finally issued long pants. A small victory, a small step on the long road to freedom, but that is how the journey begins. When I think of Nelson Mandela enduring 27 years of prison, I think of all those who are incarcerated and how they can find dignity and hope. Catholic Charities staff and volunteers help thousands of inmates in our county jails through our Inmate Services (formerly Friends Outside) and help those released from jail and prison who need help finding jobs, housing, and help with recovery through substance abuse and mental health counseling and a connection to supportive faith communities. In our Bridges of Hope faith-based reentry partnership with Recovery Café and St. Joseph Cathedral, our Right Directions employment program, and our Behavioral Health services we see small victories every day. Someone gets a driver’s license, someone else stays clean and sober for another day, another finds a job, and a parent reunites with their child. In scripture we read, “When I was in prison you visited me.” And “Set the captives free.” As we visit those in jail and as we walk with them on the journey to recovery when they are released from jail, we need to ask ourselves, what are the prisons we lock ourselves into and what are our small victories of freedom today? What are our “long pants”? Visit www.catholiccharitiesscc.org/assisting-adults to learn more or volunteer with Catholic Charities Bridges to Hope Program. Gregory R. Kepferle is CEO, Catholic Charities of Santa Clara County. ‘Our lives are not our own. Our lives are a gift and always need to be received as gift.’ is undeservedly greeted, embraced, and taken back by his father. At one level, the lesson is clear: God’s mercy is so wide and compassionate that nothing we can do will ever stop God from loving us. Many wonderful books have been written to highlight this, not least Henri Nouwen’s classic, The Return of the Prodigal Son. But Jean-Luc Marion, drawing upon the specific wording of the Greek text, emphasizes another element in this story. The Greek text implies that the son went to his father and asked for something more than property and money. It says that he asked his father for his share of the property (ousia). Ousia, in Greek, means “substance.” He’s asking for his