The Valley Catholic November 5, 2013 | Page 11

The Valley Catholic Spirituality/Family Life Marriage Minute: Our love changes the world By Paul & Stephanie Francois Worldwide Marriage Encounter On our Worldwide Marriage Encounter weekend, I heard something I had not heard before – our marriage is a VOCATION. I pondered that and thought the presenters must be mistaken or perhaps I heard them incorrectly. Priests and nuns have vocations, not married people. As I continued to listen, their words began to sink in and it dawned on me they were right – our marriage IS a vocation. As married couples, we have been called by God to live out our vows as a sacrament, that is, in a manner in which we make visible the reality of God’s love. Others should (ideally) be able to look at a married couple and say, “Ah, so that’s what God’s love looks like.” When I realized the responsibility of what we were being called to as a married couple, I began to quiver in amazement. Some of the things we continue to work on in our marriage to keep our sacrament shiny include: • Remembering that love is not a feeling; it is a decision we make many times a day. • Forgiveness is necessary to heal the hurts that will inevitably happen between us. • Striving to be other-centered rather than self-centered. • Worshipping together and sharing our faith journey; helping each other to grow in holiness. • Praying for and with each other. • Practicing patience and using a tone of voice that is loving, kind and gentle. By striving to live out the vocation of a sacramental marriage, I realize that our love has tremendous potential to change the world. Married couples in love teach their children how to love and live together in a joy-filled relationship. The loving married couple shares this love with the kids they coach in sports, their coworkers, their neighbors, their fellow parishioners. Love begets love and that is good for our world. Now, doesn’t that sound like a life worthy of our calling? For more information on creating a joy-filled marriage, visit: www.lovemoredeeply.org. Marriage isn’t easy, but it’s beautiful, pope says VATICAN CITY (CNS) -- The Catholic Church must help young people understand that marriage isn’t always easy, “but it is so beautiful,” Pope Francis said. “There are problems in marriage: different points of view, jealousies, arguments, but tell young couples to never let the day end without making peace. The sacrament of matrimony is renewed in this act of peace,” the pope said Oct. 25 during a meeting with