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COMMENTARY tvc.dsj.org | May 9, 2017 13 Moral Theology: Becoming a Holy Beggar By Rev. Ron Rolheiser, OMI Theologian, teacher, award-winning author, and President of the Oblate School of Theology in San Antonio, TX With the exception of scripture and a few Christian mystics, Christian spirituality, up to now, has been weak in presenting us with a vision for our retirement years. It’s not a mystery as to why. Until recently, the majority of people died shortly after retirement and so there was no need for a highly developed spirituality of generativity after our active years. What are our retirement years meant for, spiritu- ally? What’s our vocation then? What might generativ- ity mean for us, after our work’s been done? Henri Nouwen, one of the fi rst contemporary writ- ers to take up this question, makes this suggestion: There comes a time in our lives when the question is no longer: What can I still do to make a contribution? Rather the question becomes: How can I live now so that my aging and dying will be my fi nal great gift to my family, my com- munity, my church, and my country? How do I stop writing my resume in order to begin writing my eulogy? Happily, spiritual writers today are beginning to develop a spirituality around these ques- tions and, in doing that, I believe, we can be helped by some rich insights within Hindu spirituality. In Hinduism, life is understood to have fi ve natural stages: First, you are a Child. As a Child, you are initiated into life, you learn to speak, you learn how to interact with others, and are given time for play. The second stage is that of being a Student. In Hindu- ism, you’re a Student until you get married, begin a fam- ily, and establish a career. As a Student, your primary focus is to enjoy your youth and to prepare for life. Then you become a Householder. This, the third stage of life, begins with marriage and ends when your last child is grown-up, your mortgage is paid, and you retire from your job. As a Householder, your task is family, business, and involvement with civic and religious aff airs. These are your duty years. The fourth stage is that of being a Forest-Dweller. This period should begin when you are free enough from family and business duties to do some deeper refl ec- tion. Forest-Dwelling is meant to be an extended period wherein you withdraw, partially or fully, from active life to study and meditate your religion and your fu- ture. Very practically, this might mean that you go back to school, perhaps study theology and spirituality, do some extensive retreats, engage in a meditative practice, and take some spiritual direction from a guide. Finally, once Forest-Dwelling has given you a vision, you return to the world as a Sannyasin, as a holy beg- gar, as someone who owns nothing except faith and wisdom. As a Sannyasin, you sit somewhere in public as a beggar, as someone with no signifi cance, property, attachments, or importance. You’re available to others for a smile, a chat, an exchange of faith, or some act of charity. In eff ect, you’re a street-person, but with a diff erence. You’re not a street-person because you do not have other options (a comfortable retirement, a golf course, a cottage in the country), but rather because you have already made a success of your life. You’ve already been generative. You’ve already given what you have to give and you’re now looking to be genera- tive in a new way, namely, to live in such a way that these last years of your life will give a diff erent kind of gift to your loved ones, namely, a gift that will touch their lives in a way that in eff ect forces them to think about God and life more deeply. A Sannyasin gives incarnational fl esh to the words of Job: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb and naked I return.” We come into this world possession- less and possessionless we leave it. A holy beggar incarnates that truth. Imagine what a witness it could be if very success- ful people, doctors, bank presidents, athletes, journal- ists, teachers, business people, tradespeople, farmers, and happily married persons who had raised children successfully, people who have all kinds of comfortable options in life, would be sitting, as holy beggars, in coff ee shops, in fast-food outlets, in malls, on street corners, and in sporting arenas. Nobody could feel superior to them or treat them with pity, as we do with the street people who sit there now. Imagine the witness of someone becoming a voluntary beggar because he or she has been a success in life. What a witness and vocation that would be! But this concept, being a holy beggar, is obviously an idealized image that each of us needs to think through in terms of what that might mean for us concretely. In the early centuries of Christianity, spirituality saw martyrdom as the fi nal expression of Christian life, the ideal way to cap off a faith-fi lled life. Justin, Polycarp, Cyprian, and countless others “retired” into martyrdom. Later, Christians used to retire into monasteries and convents. But martyrdom and monasteries are also, at a cer- tain place, idealized images. What, concretely, might we retire into? BUSINESS DIRECTORY Clayton C. Barbeau, M.A., MFT Marriage and Family Therapist Specializing in Individual and Couple Therapy. Call to make an appointment today. (408) 266-6489 1217 Roycott Way, San Jose, CA 95125 For more information contact Karen Levesque, Business Manager at (408) 983-0262.