Modern religion calls this "changing the heart". To change your heart, and the thoughts you think about yourself from the outside in most cases leads to frustration. In my experince it's not changing the heart, but simply changing what you SPEAK to your heart/spirit. (Your internal dialog) And hence why the scriptures warns us to be careful what we THINK.
Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
To counter the constant barrage of negative thoughts you have about yourself. and create more positive thoughts, leads to a positive self-concept. A self-concept that can and will lose weight, find a better career, find Mr or Mrs Wonderful, build self-esteem & confidence, better parenting, and a host of other fabulous character traits that bring both happiness and success.
So, how does one change how they THINK, and how they THINK about themselves? Simply change the script. (The script in your mind) Sit down and write exactly the THOUGHTS you like to hear in your mind on a daily basis. I'll give you examples:
"I know that I am an exceptional human being. It is my goals and my incredible belief in myself that turn my goals into reality. I have the power and the ability to live my dreams. I believe in them, like I believe in myself. That belief is so strong that there is nothing that diminishes my spirit. It is without a doubt in my mind undefeatable."
"In this spirit, I will not seek recognition, I will seek only to excel. The spirit within me shows passion and talent. It is an awe of inspiration within me which simply waits and is ready for greater expression. I follow my intuition and spirit, each and every day. I inspire to do this in every way for greater life and wealth. To be alive is such a tremendous joy and blessing. To have the ability to live my dreams with enthusiasm and passion which I shall always do."
Now, imagine if you heard these words repeatly in your mind on a daily basis. They would of course CHANGE your self-concept and lead you to greater happiness and success. (If you like, you can use the self-concept I've written as an example)
Now, after you've written down your new self-concept. RECORD IT, by speaking it OUT LOUD to yourself. You can use your Cell phone, CD's, Mp3' or a Computer recording device. Try to listen to your recording at least twice a day, once in the morning, and again right before you head to sleep.
Try it for at least 3 weeks, I promise you, you'll see incredible changes within you that will astound you!
To change what's within (your heart) will always lead to changing what's without.
Thanks for reading
-BookyT