FEATURE
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CLEANING OUT YOUR
CLOSET:
FRIEND OR FOE?
By: Mmagauta Kgang
Spring used to be a daunting time for
me as a black girl: the dreaded 'spring
cleaning'session would be coming in at
least the first two weeks of
September. Curtains and windows
needed washing, blankets needed
washing, cupboards needed to be
emptied and washed out, closets were
emptied of old clothes to make space
fro new clothes.. I still have terrible
flash backs of that time.lol.
As life kept teaching me lessons each
season, I came to appreciate the
notion of "spring cleaning", with time,
I started seeing the merits of it. I'm
still not a fan of the ACTUAL cleaning
part, but its a concept you need to
consider applying to your friendships
too. Here's why: Birds of a feather
Flock together.
First, you have to assess your current
friendships:
There are two approaches you can take to
assessing friendships and what to do with
them. The first is to ask yourself, Does
my circle of friends meet my social and
emotional needs? Start by wondering, On
the whole, do I have enough intimates
whom I’d die for and who’d die for me
(okay, that’s a bit over the top, but you
get the gist)?
I’m talking about sacred sisters (or
brothers) who have proved themselves
over and over and are just about the most
spectacular friends anyone on the planet
could ever wish for. You want to have at
least one, if not two or three of these. I
know that’s a tall order, but it helps to
have more, rather than fewer, close
friends.
In spite of cell phone accessibility,
friends occasionally deserve private time
and do drift out of signal range.
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