So what are your choices, young
ladies?
If you feel that your ready to
have sex with your partner ask
yourself these questions:
• Are you in a healthy
relationship with anyone you
want to have sex with- don’t just
fall for any guy who claims to
love you others are just there to
test the waters and move on
• If you are in a relationship, can
the two of you sit and talk about
sex (prevention, protection,
expectations) and its
implications? If you aren’t ‘adult’
enough to talk to your partner
about sex, both of you should
reconsider having sex until you
are able to talk about sex without
giggling through it: can’t talk
about it? you ain’t ready for it.
ARE YOU READY FOR SEX
The decision to have sex is a big deal. There
are several things one must look at before
making the decision, including your values,
cultural and religious beliefs, and what you
know about preventing STIs and pregnancy. The
answer has a lot to do with how comfortable
you are with having sex, with whom and when.
Well, I will admit that this is not an easy
question to answer, it requires introspective
thought. How? Well firstly Sex can change your
life and status of your relationship, it may
affect the way you feel about yourself or how
others feel about you, is this the right time in
my life to be having sex. Some teenagers choose
to wait until they are a little bit older to have
sex others may wait till they feel that they are
ready to have sex in their current relationship
I have often heard of the saying that boys will
do or say anything to get into girls panties, I’ve
even encountered a few of these losers that
were rebuffed quickly! Ain’t nobody got time
for that! These types of boys sexually objectify
girls - all they want to do is hit and run then
it’s on to the next one: they do not consider the
emotional implications that a girl may have
post-having sex with them. You would be best
to avoid these kind of guys like the plague...no
matter how good looking they are.
• Are you responsible enough to
protect yourself against STIs and
unwanted pregnancy by using
birth control and condoms?
* if you do catch an STI or fall
pregnant...do you have a plan for
that?
• What if it goes wrong? Are you
emotionally mature to deal with
the effects of having sex with
someone and it just doesn’t work
out with him? #justasking
Some of you may choose to wait,?
Firstly there is nothing wrong
with waiting until you are ready
to have sex and I would
recommend it but I understand
that not a single soul can impose
this on you. Not everyone you
know who is claiming to be
having sex is having sex even the
ones that boast about it are
probably not doing it. If you
decide to wait and not have sex,
be rooted in self love and self
respect until you are able to
make sense of the whole sex
thing and be empowered enough
to make selfish decisions for your
sake.
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