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strains of gonorrhea emerged, along with various other infections such as herpes. Our society needs to keep pace with developments on reproductive health issues. Cancer is becoming a formidable disease but very few girls are aware that engaging in early sex and sleeping with multiple partners can cause cervical cancer. Teenagers need to know that premarital sex plays havoc to their emotional wellbeing. It breeds mistrust, a guilty ridden conscience and low self esteem and the result may be an inability to form strong lasting relationships. Besides abstinence, t here is need to think outside the box and explore other means like consistent and correct usage of condoms, information dissemination on sex and reproductive rights. This calls for a balance between discipline and tolerance Information dissemination agents also need to target rural areas where the bulk of the populace lives with no easy access to medical care.? marriage break down, women have the power to either kill or mend love relations. Simply put, love matters belong to women. In a country where divorce has become so common against the backdrop of a decimating social fabric and increased prostitution riding high on receding morals in today’s children, there is need to support marriages through offering workable solutions in homes. Our ‘tete’ system has crumbled due to family distance and over reliance on media by local families. To this effect, young girls and boys have been left at the mercy of H-Metro and Facebook style of reportage, which has aided wild behaviour in our youths. Unlike other communities like Asians or Russians, our communities have lost our moral campus, which has exposed our societies to all sorts of plagues. For generations, Asian women learned how to treat a man by following rules laid down by the Thai philosopher in his book, Maxims for Teaching Women. Now they’ve taken his words of wisdom that have been passed down from more than 2,000 years and updated them to deal with men in 2012. Here are the winning recommendations for women who want to be successful in love and marriage according to Phu: YOUR MAN IS KING - Remember that your man/husband comes first - before you, your parents, your outside interests or even your children. RISE EARLY. Get up in the morning before your man does. Make sure you prepare a healthy breakfast so he gets a good start on the day. Even if you have to leave before him, make sure he has a nice breakfast waiting for him when he comes into the kitchen in the morning. NEVER NAG. Never, ever! If he wants to stop off after work and have a few drinks with his buddies, that’s his business. If he forgot to take out the garbage - do it yourself. BE AT HOME. Make sure you’re always at home when he gets in from a hard day at the office. Even if you are
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s I pored over the internet, I stumbled on Sunthron Phu’s teachings. The Thai philosopher’s book is particularly helpful to counter the small house fantasy in our local setting where small houses treat men as their king, willing to even heat water for them to brush their teeth. While it is plausible that emphasising Phu’s teachings on women as central to success in marriages and love is synonymous to blaming women for
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working, make sure you get home to your man/husband as soon as possible. SMILE. Always greet your man with a smile on your face and, if you can, a cold drink in your hand. DINNER READY. If you are home, or get home first, always have a delicious dinner ready to be served. And if he comes home feeling tense, give him a massage to ease his aches and pains. LET HIM HANG WITH FRIENDS. If your man wants to have his buddies over for a night of football, don’t get mad. Encourage it and make sure you’ve got lots of sandwiches and cold beer on hand to serve them. ASK FIRST. Always ask him first before you go spending his hardearned money, or even your hard-earned money, to buy something for yourself. REMOTE CONTROL. Let him choose the programs you watch on television. The television is man’s domain… he should be in charge. NEVER lend out his favourite movies or disks! OBEY. Don’t do things your husband doesn’t approve of. And don’t complain about it. If he doesn’t want you wasting your time watching soap operas or having coffee with a neighbour, obey him. You’ll both be happier for it. WILD IN BED. Be a temptress in bed. If he likes you in sexy lingerie, wear it. Be shy and demure when you’re out in public, but once the lights are out, let him know he’s the only man in the world who can please you. KNOW SPORTS. Bone up on sports so you’ll have something to talk about. But always let him start the conversation. KEEP FIT. Keep yourself in shape and always dress nicely so you’ll be a wife any husband would be proud to have. CLEANING. Keep your home spic and span at all times. It should look like you’re expecting company. And the laundry should always be done. Your man should never have to look for clean socks or underwear and his shirts should all be ironed-by you. Look ou