The Online Essential Divorce Course Jan. 2014 Vol. 1, 2014 | Page 5

HAVEAPOSITIVEDIVORCE.
WITH JANET MURRAY

So You’re Getting A Divorce
Initially when faced with the prospect of
separation or divorce you may experience
a feeling of complete numbness, shock or
emptiness. You might feel like a rabbit
frozen in the headlights. Whether you have
ended the relationship or whether it’s your
partner’s decision, it can be a very intense
feeling of shock. Your world has been
turned upside down. Dealing with this new
situation whilst you feel like this may feel
beyond you, but the most important advice
to remember is this: if you can feel better,
you can get through it better.
• Seek preliminary legal advice: Finding out your rights will
protect you and your family from making rash or compromising decisions that may have long-term consequences. Seeing a lawyer doesn’t
mean that you have to get divorced but you are at least better
prepared if things do get worse.
• Think twice before you decide: There are many statistics that
show that couples often regret getting divorced a few years down the
line. Don’t rush things, have a break and think about the best choice.
You might need an ‘informal separation’ or ‘healing separation’ to clear
your head a bit before you take the next step.
Coming to terms with what‘s happening to you is an important part of
the process. Initially you may be in denial of what’s happening as sometimes it’s easier to shut off and protect ourselves from the raw pain of
relationship breakdown. But coming to terms with what’s happening to
you is a vital part of the process.
This session helps you understand what you are feeling
and how you deal with your emotions, which is essential
for having a positive divorce.

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