The Military Wife Mar. 2010 | Seite 9

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After Deployment Sex - Awkward Moments

What to do for A.D.S Awkward Moments, SEE PG 14

"I feel like a stranger is coming into my house, we’ve been away from each other for so long. I know that as his wife, I’m expected to be all excited to be intimate again, but I’m honestly feeling really weird about it since I’ve gained quite a fair amount of weight since he was home for leave. I am feeling really uncomfortable with the idea of just stripping down and getting right to business. I haven’t told him about it and am worried that he won’t find me attractive. Would it be okay if I just put off getting naked in front of him?

- Jocelyn, 29, AB

"When he came home for HLTA, the last thing he wanted to do after we got into the house was have sex. We talked for a few minutes, then he had a few drinks with me and passed out on the couch. He’s never done that before after a couple of beer, so it was completely unexpected. Obviously I made sure to phone my lover to take care of things since I'd already paid the babysitter, but I was so hurt, that I don’t even want my husband to touch me after being so inconsiderate. Now he’s been talking about wanting to have another baby once he gets back!"

- Bethany, 32, ON

"The entire family is planning to throw my spouse a surprise “welcome home” party. I know his mother expects to be able to sit and monopolize him as soon as he gets in the door, but he and I have already agreed that we can’t wait to get things moving in the bedroom. I tried to talk to her about keeping the baby occupied so we could at least have an hour or two alone first, but she keeps laying these guilt trips on me that I should just wait. As she said, “You’ve waited this long for him, why not a few more hours while he spends time with his family?”

-Miranda, 23, NS