The Military Wife Mar. 2010 | Page 14

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A.D.S Awkward Moments, cont...

Sex, that powerful, beautiful, instinctive way for couples to express love and intimacy, tends to be the focal point of homecoming fantasies. But after being physically separated during a deployment, awkward moments are completely normal. Though post-deployment sex may come naturally for some, others may find it initially challenging. If you focus on re-establishing intimacy, great sex will follow.

-Plan (or create) alone time together without children, parents, friends or relatives. Many couples take advantage of the drive home to pull over and “blow off steam”.

-Of course, a celebratory bottle is a great idea, but too much alcohol reduces sex drive and performance. If he hasn’t had a drink for several months, his alcohol tolerance will be lowered so it might be a good idea to encourage him to imbibe after your needs have been met.

-Make a point of seeing each other naked under the premise of doing something else so you can re-acquaint yourselves with each other’s bodies, new tattoos, weight changes, plastic surgery, etc. A great way to do this is by undressing each other and showering or bathing together.

-Talk, cuddle, flirt. Be playful, it will help reduce performance anxiety. Also, it may be best to put off role playing for the time being as he will need some time to re-acquaint himself with reality before getting back into bedroom fantasies.

-Take precautions if you’re not trying to get pregnant again.

- Relax, and get to know each other again!