THE CONSEQUENCES OF OUR ACTIONS
inferiority complex if his poverty-stricken parents
continue to nurture his sense of deprivation.
For parents who cannot afford the toys their
children desire, here’s a tip: say no to them once.
The next time they ask for anything, even if you
have to borrow money, you need to get it for
them. This is essential if you are concerned about
your child’s emotional sanity.
It is not just children who feel the senses of
deprivation and achievement. Adults are prone to
it too. When a batsman in cricket is unable to hit
the ball for many overs, his morale begins to fall.
But if suddenly, he manages to make two runs,
he feels an overwhelming sense of achievement,
which restores his confidence and willpower.
If a businessman who has been sustaining a
loss of £1000 per month makes a sale of £500,
the feelings of failure dominating his mind
will be nullified with the onset of emotions of
When you are experiencing a sense of
achievement and the person in front of you is
touching upon feelings of deprivation, there is a
conflict of emotions between you two which then
By nature, we tend to care primarily about
our own selves. As we become more emotionally
intelligent, we need to care for the emotions of
those around us. This is how emotional bonds
between people are nurtured and maintained.
MESSIAH HERALD / ISSUE 05 / JUN 2017
Everything we do will have an impact on
everybody’s emotional sanity.
If you see someone helping the needy, you
will feel positive emotions for them. If you see
someone being abusive to others, you will
automatically feel negative emotions for them.
HH Younus AlGohar declares, ‘You are the one
who will make positive emotions in the hearts of
other people. If you are not behaving well, people
will not have good emotions for you.’
Many religious people fake their actions to
earn positive emotions from others. For example,
if a person appears to be worshipping God
wholeheartedly, people around him will praise
him even if his worship is not reaching God or
improving his character.
When the schools and colleges are full
of students, we don’t expect ignorance to
be common in society. Similarly, if all the
worshippers in mosques, churches, synagogues
and temples were sincere in their worship and
practice of the religion, our world would have
been a much better place than it is today. When
they’re in the worship place, they appear to be
wonderful people; when they come out of the
worship place, they change.
Every one of your actions and statements are
directly linked to an emotion - good or bad.
Whatever you do in front of others will always
elicit a reaction, because people can not deny
what they see and hear. Physical wounds will
eventually heal, but emotional wounds caused by
harsh words can last forever.
As long as you are living, everything is in real-
time. People will change their minds about you in
an instant. You can do great things all your life,
but one wrong statement or act on your part can
turn people against you.
HH Younus AlGohar reminds us,
‘Be careful. Nobody is your
enemy; you are either your friend
or enemy. A good spiritual man
is one who only begets positive
emotions; who does not beget
negative emotions and who does
not cause any other person to
beget negative emotions.’