The Messiah Herald Issue 05 June 2017 | Page 12

EMOTIONAL SANITY Every action and deed is linked to an emotion. M ANY SITUATIONS IN DAY-TO-DAY life have a profound impact on our emotional well-being. The senses of deprivation and achievement that dominate our psyches as a result of different circumstances are responsible for the development of imbalanced personalities. When we strive and long for certain things but are unable to attain them, a sense of deprivation prevails on the surface of our emotional rivers. On the other hand, when we are able to access all sorts of luxuries that are not easily afforded to others, a sense of achievement overrides our emotional state. How senses of deprivation and achievement develop is illustrated well in the following example. There are two children who both want an expensive toy. One child’s parents are wealthy, so they buy the toy and present it to him. He, receiving the gift, feels a sense of achievement. The other child’s parents are unable to afford the toy; so he, being unable to obtain the toy, feels a sense of deprivation. Both the sense of achievement and sense of deprivation, if prolonged, negatively impact our mental welfare. The sense of achievement and sense of deprivation are opposites of each other. To nullify 12 the effects of a sense of deprivation, a dose of a sense of achievement must be given - and vice versa. The child who didn’t receive the toy he wanted will feel deprived. If his desire is fulfilled the next time he asks for something, then he will feel a sense of achievement which will counterbalance the sense of deprivation he felt before. In the case of the child who was able to get the gift, a sense of achievement would dominate his mind. He would begin to think, ‘Anything is reachable. All I need to do is say that I want it.’ This is where an imbalance in his emotional state starts to occur. Once the child acquired what he desired, now is the time for that sense of achievement to become null and void. Next time the child asks for even a small toy, his parents must not give it to him. When he is given this small dose of a sense of deprivation, his emotional sanity is secured. HH Younus AlGohar notes, ‘When the child is sick, what the doctors tell you is give the child paracetamol - and, in intervals, give them ibuprofen. Similarly, fulfil one desire of the child and say no to the other.’ If the child’s parents continue to say yes to everything he asks for, they are actually destroying his emotional well-being and paving way for him to develop a superiority complex. The other child would eventually fall prey to an MESSIAH HERALD / ISSUE 05 / JUN 2017