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and looks beautiful and gives fruit."
And God Forbid the woman perhaps
she is beautiful in herself, but she
comes from a family who does not
know the difference between covering
up and not allowing her daughter
speak to men etc.
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Ali (a.s), and all those who are upon
the same likeness in every time
period, meaning those who disbelieve
in Imam Ahmad (a.s) are part of the
Khuwarej. And the woman who
believes in any of these three things,
especially the Khuwarej, this woman
is haram to marry and have
So if a person was given an option
intercourse with. And the Gulatis
between a strikingly beautiful woman
(those who exaggerate) are the ones
but her origins was questionable or
who believe that the messenger or
unknown, and a woman who is not as
proof in that time is the Absolute
beautiful but has religion, piety, and
God, not the veil or proof, or face, but
good religious family... he should pick
the Absolute God. And the Nasibis
the one from the good nature and
are the ones who have hatred toward
origins and in mid-beauty. And if he
the Imam (a.s) or the shia of the Imam
picks a person just for her beauty,
(a.s), and this person is haram to have
perhaps she is cooking and burns
marriage with. And besides those
herself and it all goes away, or she
three groups out of the Muslims, it is
gets a skin disease in her face, or she
permissible to have marriage with,
becomes proud and prideful upon
but it is makroo.
him, because she finds that men are
looking at her and chasing her, so
And when a person intends to get
Iblis (May Allah curse him) makes her married he should pray two rakat in
think she is much wanted, and if she
seeking closeness to Allah (swt) and
leaves him she will find many others make this dua, "O Allah I really want
to take her.
to get married, so prepare for me and
make destined for me from among the
And the person should not look at the
women, those who are most
fortune, for if he is given a choice
protective over their privates, and the
from one who is poor with no money
most safeguarding of them of herself
but comes from a good natured
and his money, and the most wide of
religious family, and has one who is
them in sustenance and the greatest
wealthy and is the opposite, he
of them in blessing." Or make other
should choose the poor one. Money is
than that in dua, what you want from
not an aspect, perhaps it may go, and
Allah (swt), ask it from Him and He
perhaps because she has money, she
(swt) shall give it to you.
will put herself over him and make
him feel shameful. So when a person If a man makes this dua and prays
wants to get married, he should keep two rakat and his heart falls upon a
these things in his mind.
woman, he should make Istikahara
concerning this woman. And the
And of course the woman a man
kinds of Istikharas are many and they
wants to marry should be Ansar
are available in the book of dua's from
Allah, and the Imam (a.s) allowed...
the Ahlul Bayt (a.s).
but it is makroo to marry the nonAnsar Allah woman. There are three
And know that if a person has pure
groups that are najis for the Ansar
intentions and gets married in order
Allah: The Nasibis, The Gulatis, and
to get close to Allah (swt) and obey
The Khuwarej. The Khuwarej (May
the Imam (a.s) and brings forth
Allah curse them), they are the ones
purified seed who support the Imams
that believe in the disbelief of Imam
of Allah (a.s), Allah (swt) shall grant
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him success in moving forward to the
correct choice. And know that the
purpose of the marriage should not
be lustful purposes and sexual
pleasures, even though the person
who dedicates himself to Allah (swt),
he shall be the one who has the most
blessed pleasure with his wife,
because his intention is pure with
Allah (swt), and Allah (swt) will
make him Blessed with having the
best of pleasures with his wife.
So if the two sides accepted one
another in front of witnesses, that is
it.... the contract has fallen. Meaning if
they publicly express to one another
that they accept one another, the
contract has fallen. And before the
woman gets married, there should be
someone there who walks them
through or clarifies things about the
marriage, and it is mustahab that the
fulfillment of the marriage happens at
night time. So if the contract falls
whether he tells the masses or does
not they are married. But making the
people know, the relatives, the
friends, the neighbors, that so and so
has married so and so, this is
mustahab.
And now let us go over the marriage
contract InshaAllah...
Regarding the marriage contract, it is
between two sides or people and that
is the woman and the male. The
woman from her i s the response or
the acceptance, and it means that she
gives herself to the man, and the man
must accept that. So basically the
contract consists of two things, the
woman desires to give herself to the
man and makes that clear. It is upon
the man to accept that, and this is in
both cases no matter who asked to
marry. But if the woman expresses
desire to marry, then the man accepts
and the contract has fallen.
And the format of the contract must
be said or written in clear language