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In the name of Allah, the Most
Beneficent, the Most Merciful,
Assalamau Alaikum waRahmatullahi
waBarakatu dear brothers and sisters,
As we grow older and seek closeness
to Allah (swt), we realize by His
Mercy and studies of the Qur'an and
the Ahlul Bayt (a.s) the importance of
marriage between the believers. The
Hadith and Quranic verses are too
many to mention in this article, so this
will be a brief overview of the
importance of marriage, some
important qualities to look for in a
believing woman, the marriage
contract between the male and
female, and the eight makroo times of
solitude for the newly married man
and woman.
The evidence regarding the
importance of marriage is in the
Qur'an: "And marry those among you
who are single and those who are fit
among your male slaves and female
slaves. If they are needy, Allah will
make them needless out of His
Grace ..." (Noor : 32)
Also in the Holy Qur'an: "O you
people, verily We have created you
from male and female and made you
nations and tribes so you may know
one another, verily the most pious of
you....."
The Imam (a.s) says: "so you may
know one another...." in this verse it
means to marry, and of course the
traditions in regard to the idea of
marriage being a mustahab act are
very many, and the Imam (a.s)
chooses the traditions to share, and
that is from His words (swt), "marry
and have children" and that is from
the previous Imams (a.s), meaning the
sunnah of the previous Imams (as),
and from their traditions.
Reproduction is based on marriage
and it is in order that we may make
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the earth heavy with Muslim children
that will remember Allah (swt), the
Qur'an says: "Allah the Almighty
says: "And Allah has made spouses
for you from among yourself and
from your spouses He creates
offsprings and beloveds for you." And
for the words of the Prophet
Muhammad (s.a.w) who said: "The
most evil of your dead are your
singles."
And the singles is a plural for the
word single and it is in regard to the
single man or single female. And the
Imam (a.s) quotes a hadith from one
of the Imams (a.s), "A individual has
not benefited anything after Islam
better than a Muslim wife who makes
him happy when he looks at her, and
she obeys him, and she safeguards
him and his money when he is absent
from her."
So here we see that the Ahlul Bayt
(a.s) have laid out a guideline for the
believing women, and that is that
they make their husband happy when
he looks at her, that they remain
obedient to their husbands (so long as
they are not commanding haram or
any act in disobedience to Allah (swt),
and lastly that she safeguards him,
and his money when he is absent
from her. Which obviously refers to
safe-guarding his secrets, her chastity,
and his belongings.
In summary, and this is very
important for the believing woman to
understand, clearly the man is the
paradise of the woman and also her
hell-fire. This clearly means that the
woman must understand that the
husband is her key to paradise, if she
does not do what is incumbent upon
her to do, and if she disobeys what
Allah (swt) has appointed in regards
to her husband, he is her door and
gateway to entering the hell fire. And
at the same time the believing man
must understand compassion and
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patience, and forgiving his wife, as
many traditions mention the extreme
severity for the woman if the husband
does not show forgiveness towards
her.
And it is mustahab for whoever
wants to marry and make a contract,
that he may choose from the women
whoever gathers in her these four
characteristics, and there are many
traditions that FƲ&