Why is sexual fantasy so taboo, that many couples actually do not share this desire with each other? Again, it has to do with our perception of how we think. We have this fear that if we admit that we like to try something, you get this pervert label. When comes to your partner, to get to the level where you are intimate with them, that fear should subside. This person knows you, they should be in love with you, so admitting maybe that you like to have your hair pulled, or a slap on the butt, should be something easy to share with them.
Fantasy should be something of a treat as well. It helps break up the usual pattern you may have in your sex life. To do every fantasy you and your partner ever had in one night isn’t the correct way to go about fantasy. Instead, use for example a holiday, Father’s day is coming up. After the kids are in bed, take him aside and whisper in his ear, “I have a special gift for a wonderful daddy.” Take to the bedroom, and maybe show him a school girl outfit you have hidden. Not only will he be thrilled you’re acting out his fantasy, but doing it as a special surprise occasion, will mean more to him. You will be satisfied, by seeing how you lit up his face with desire. That alone knowing you made him really desire you that night will make you an excellent seductress. That is the art of fantasy.