as bad as doing something you don’t want to do. There has to be a middle ground.
For some men, they like the school girl fantasy and spanking the bottom. A good compromise would be to dress in the school girl outfit, but no spanking, or agree to be spanked but no outfit. Either one will satisfy both parties involved. By compromising like that you showing your partner, you care about making the fantasy come true, and you’re staying in your own comfort level. With sex you have to do a little give and take and give into a little bit of the “nasty” sometimes.
When asked why women will not do something in the bedroom, many answer, “I just won’t.” They never have a real reason as to why they won’t. When asked if they ever tried something they would not do, the answer many times is “no.” there is a fine line when comes to trying things, my theory is if you do not try it once how do you know you won’t like it.
Yes there are sexual acts out that just do not appeal to you, that is a better excuse then I just won’t. For example, threesomes, every man out there it seems has that I want to sleep with 2 women fantasy. I personally would not do that, why I am not attracted to women, for me the thought of sleeping with a man and a woman, just doesn’t get me excited. That is fine, I know that is one fantasy I will not do with a man I am with, if that is his fantasy, but I will see if he has something else that I would be willing to do with him. In most cases it happens to be dressing up. That is the art of a compromise when comes to sexual fantasy.
Why is sexual fantasy so taboo, that many couples actually do not share this desire with each other? Again, it has to do with our perception of how we think. We have this fear that if we admit that we like to try something, you get this pervert label. When comes to your partner, to get to the level where you are intimate with them, that fear should subside. This person knows you, they should be in love with you, so admitting maybe that you like to have your hair pulled, or a slap on the butt, should be something easy to share with them.
Fantasy should be something of a treat as well. It helps break up the usual pattern you may have in your sex life. To do every fantasy you and your partner ever had in one night isn’t the correct way to go about fantasy. Instead, use for example a holiday, Father’s day is coming up. After the kids are in bed, take him aside and whisper in his ear, “I have a special gift for a wonderful daddy.” Take to the bedroom, and maybe show him a school girl outfit you have hidden. Not only will he be thrilled you’re acting out his fantasy, but doing it as a special surprise occasion, will mean more to him. You will be satisfied, by seeing how you lit up his face with desire. That alone knowing you made him really desire you that night will make you an excellent seductress. That is the art of fantasy.
spanked but no outfit. Either one will satisfy both parties involved. By compromising like that you showing your partner, you care about making the fantasy come true, and you’re staying in your own comfort level. With sex you have to do a little give and take and give into a little bit of the “nasty” sometimes.
When asked why women will not do something in the bedroom, many answer, “I just won’t.” They never have a real reason as to why they won’t. When asked if they ever tried something they would not do, the answer many times is “no.” there is a fine line when comes to trying things, my theory is if you do not try it once how do you know you won’t like it.
Yes there are sexual acts out that just do not appeal to you, that is a better excuse then I just won’t. For example, threesomes, every man out there it seems has that I want to sleep with 2 women fantasy. I personally would not do that, why I am not attracted to women, for me the thought of sleeping with a man and a woman, just doesn’t get me excited. That is fine, I know that is one fantasy I will not do with a man I am with, if that is his fantasy, but I will see if he has something else that I would be willing to do with him. In most cases it happens to be dressing up. That is the art of a compromise when comes to sexual fantasy.
Why is sexual fantasy so taboo, that many couples actually do not share this desire with each other? Again, it has to do with our perception of how we think. We have this fear that if we admit that we like to try something, you get this pervert label. When comes to your partner, to get to the level where you are intimate with them, that fear should subside. This person knows you, they should be in love with you, so admitting maybe that you like to have your hair pulled, or a slap on the butt, should be something easy to share with them.
Fantasy should be something of a treat as well. It helps break up the usual pattern you may have in your sex life. To do every fantasy you and your partner ever had in one night isn’t the correct way to go about fantasy. Instead, use for example a holiday, Father’s day is coming up. After the kids are in bed, take him aside and whisper in his ear, “I have a special gift for a wonderful daddy.” Take to the bedroom, and maybe show him a school girl outfit you have hidden. Not only will he be thrilled you’re acting out his fantasy, but doing it as a special surprise occasion, will mean more to him. You will be satisfied, by seeing how you lit up his face with desire. That alone knowing you made him really desire you that night will make you an excellent seductress. That is the art of fantasy.