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The Purpose of Male and Female Relationships—by A C Nelson
As stated in my previous article, having a
relationship with a male is unavoidable. As
single women, we just want to carry ourselves in such a way that we don’t diminish
who we are just to catch a man’s eye.

off the phone, I felt so much better. We connected in prayer and God was able to move
with power through our agreement. After he
prayed for me, I prayed for him and God got
the glory.

So why even bother having relationships with
men when you’re single? I’m not pressing
you to go find male friends if you don’t have
them already, but I am suggesting that men
are placed in our lives for reasons. Haven’t
you noticed that men have different perspectives? Sometimes when I confide in one of
my male friends about a situation, his insight
into the male psyche helps talk me down off
a cliff of disaster. God designed men and
women differently. When we work together
with men, the different aspects we bring to
the table help to cultivate something that
has the potential of greatness because of
the differences we bring to the table.

Why share this story? God can use friendships we have to help build us up regardless
of gender. Every male in our lives is not our
husband and we should not view them as
such. We should view them as our brothers
in Christ. If God chooses a male that is in
your life to be your husband, He will let that
man know and then once it’s made clear to
you, your feelings for him will shift.

One time I was really going through something and it just seemed like no one could
understand. I got a call from a friend and he
just began to share what the Lord had laid
on his heart concerning me. He gave me a
song that God had laid on his heart for me
and from that moment, I knew that God had
specifically spoke to him about me. He had
no idea the same song he gave was the
same song I was singing on my way home
the previous rough day.
He continued to encourage me and then he
prayed for me. Now, I have been around a lot
of Christian men from church and work, but
none of them have ever prayed for me with
such fortitude except my pastor. After I got

Don’t stress over the idea of, “If I don’t show
my interest or put it all out there, he won’t
know he has the green light.” Men were built
to pursue. If he’s the one, you’ll know and
the feelings will be mutual. What I have
learned from the married women in my life
is men who really feel you are the one will
put in the work to win your heart.

Scripture that has been keeping me lately is
Psalm 84:11, “For the LORD God is a sun
and shield; the LORD will give grace and
glory; no good thing will He withhold from
them that walk uprightly. “ My focus is on
living uprightly. I want to please Him. Whenever God looks upon me, I don’t want Him to
be disappointed by my actions.
Looking upon the single men in my life as
my brothers in Christ, keeps me focused. I
would never want to cause my biological
brother to stumble or go against God’s plan
for his life. Now, I treat the single men in my
life this way. I set necessary boundaries so
that neither of us “go there” and I am sure
to keep our conversations pure. Anything I’m
uncomfortable talking about, I make known.
This helps to keep the boundary and keep
the relationship from going down a path of
no return.

If you look at a man and just get the feeling
in your gut that he’s the one, put him on the
altar before the Lord. Don’t be afraid to talk
to Daddy about him. When I get those mixed
signals, I immediately go into prayer mode,
because what I don’t want to do is overstep
any boundaries. I am a woman; I get pursued.
My goal this time is to allow God to fully
have control over my love life. I got nervous
even after I typed that out. However, He’s
the best one for the job. When I did it myself,
I ended up hurt and wounded. The one

With this new perspective of who they are to
me, I’m no longer scared to be a real friend
to a male. As always, God wants His best for
us. Be encouraged!

Marital Bliss
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