The Happiness Lab Delegate's Guide Chapter 4 — Friends & Family - Page 3

Adam’s story 04 Spending time with friends and family R elationships are challenging for me. Some time ago my wife left me. I didn’t expect it to happen, nor was I looking for it to happen, but one of the consequences of it was that I focussed more on my work than I would have if things had been different. What is more, the nature of my job is such that as a web developer I spend a lot of time on my own. The primary means of communication with my clients is via email, so I don’t really spend much time in face- to-face meetings. I was probably spending about eighteen hours a day at work with me sitting on my own at the computer 99 per cent of the time. Some people might have thought that I was a bit of a hermit. That said, I did focus on spending any free time I had with my kids. It frightened me how fast they were growing up and how quick things were changing. We all know that relationships are essential to happiness, but it is difficult when life doesn’t go as you hoped it would and you have a job that doesn’t give you as much free time as you would like. In being on The Happiness Lab I 43 realised how busy I was and that I had a cynical outlook on friendships. Since then I have tried to take a greater interest in, and think more about, other people. I have also made an extra effort to spend more time with friends and family and to put more into those relationships. This has made work more enjoyable and has made me a happier person too.