Weigh up if you want to forgive this person or not
No one can force you to forgive someone else. To
make that choice you need to weigh up the pros
and cons of doing so.
Personally journey to a place of forgiveness
As you journey to the place of forgiveness you
must pass through the phases of recalling the hurt
that you experienced, trying to understand why
the person acted as they did, contemplation of
moments when you have hurt others, and, finally,
establishing a mindset where you desire to think
differently about the person who hurt you.
Decide on the best way of expressing forgiveness
– for you and them
You could go and see them with a friend and chat
about what they did to you; you could write them a
letter; you could decide to forgive them, but choose
never to tell them that or see them again. Only you
can decide what is the best way of expressing the
forgiveness you have decided to grant.
Walk out your new mindset
This could mean anything from a restored
relationship, to not talking negatively about
someone to wishing them the best in life – yet
having nothing to do with them yourself.
Hold on to forgiveness
After you have forgiven someone there will still be
moments when you feel the pain of their hurt. At
that moment you have to again acknowledge the
journey you have gone on and remind yourself of
your decision to forgive them.
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