The Happiness Lab Delegate's Guide Chapter 1 — Gratitude & Savouring - Page 7

D r Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, notes that one of the three keys for raising your happiness level is getting more pleasure out of your life. The other two involve finding meaning and being more involved in what you do. Drawing greater pleasure from life includes savouring the experiences that you go through and learning to appreciate what you have. The three steps you can take to increase the pleasure that you have in life are: Step 1: noticing the good things that you have or that are going on around you Step 2: savouring those positive ingredients in your life Step 3: being thankful for them. When it comes to understanding what it means to savour, some of the following sentiments have been expressed: It means getting as much good out of something – such as an experience or situation – as possible. As humans we have a natural tendency towards negativity; this means that savouring is about treating a negative event as we would a positive one. Rather than mulling over what went wrong, why it went wrong, and dwelling on the negative emotions that we have, it is about realising how good that event was, why it was so good, and how positive we felt about it. 01 Being fully present It is about being fully present in an experience. We savour a situation when we bring all of our senses to that which we are savouring. It is about not multi-tasking but focussing in on that one thing. Some would say it’s about giving your full attention to what is going on and absorbing the positivity. Mindfulness is a word that is often equated with savouring; it means to be fully present and aware of what is going on around you and inside you. We need to give ourselves permission, time, and space to be in the moment. Rather than seeing life as a destination, it is better to perceive it as a journey, and to savour each step. It requires slowing down and, on occasion, stopping. 15