The GOODS Relationship Article:
One Man’s View
By Lonnie Lewis
So you find yourself walking along a sidewalk, you begin to notice couples holding hands,
then the thought hits you, “where is my romance?” Only there’s something different in
your situation, I can’t seem to find the one. We open our phones and quickly dial every
hot chick we know on the way to the next bar with desired hopes she’s still single or has
the time to meet.
It’s no secret this love thing is not mans strong point. We’re forever lost in this parallel
universe where problems are solved with our hands rather than our heads. A friend of
mine asked me to describe what its like to love and be in a relationship from a man’s
point of view. I instantly sat down, and began to look at my last few relationships and
ponder. Truthfully I couldn’t answer that even if I tried. There is no solid answer, each
man to his own, and Lord knows with my last few intimate encounters, I could use some
lessons myself. I can however tell you what dating and finding love is like from this man’s
point of view, and the lessons I’m now learning since my last breakup.
My last relationship ended just recently. I could have sworn I was falling in love and the
white picket fence was just around the corner. I felt myself caving in to this illusion that
I was going to spend my life with this woman, have kids, the whole nine yards. What I
didn’t know was that slowly my relationship was falling apart without me even being
aware of the damage as it started to unfold. The principal of the problem was my own
self-doing. This is the story of most men’s failed relationships; they are most likely our
faults. That’s not to say women are totally innocent in the whole breakup. There are
obviously two faults when it comes to misguided love. Only this isn’t about pointing
fingers, rather taking a look at us men.
There’s this trigger in our heads that seems to keep us running from love. We want what
we can’t have, and then when we have what we wanted, we seem to get bored or just
don’t understand what it takes to keep her around. I don’t think it’s that we don’t have a
heart, or feelings. Truly, I think we just don’t have the common sense to realize it takes
more effort then that of which we give during the honeymoon period. Its simple, we
tend to forget about the small things. It’s the slight flirtatious text messages, flowers
on non-occasional circumstances and genuinely just being attentive to her needs that