The Global Achievers Issue 1/2021 | Page 43

to see anyone else make it in life… Seriously, if you start to build yourself up or start to grow personally, the narcissist will do whatever it takes to bring the victim back down as far as they can while ensuring that the victim is completely broken… I remember vividly when I went to college and started my first business, I wanted to get better clientele so I invested in buying a new car to sell luxury real estate... A friend of my ex started to say how my ex missed me, and that l was the best my ex ever had…So here I went again, I had gotten back with my ex after been broken up for 2 years and now the cycle starts again… I am now 260lbs with a brand new convertible car and my businesses was just taken off, so when my ex ask to get back together I really did not see how he could break me again… after all, I now have a college degree and multiple certificates so I was strong enough to get back in this relationship and give it one last try or so I thought!

A few weeks down the line he started again with his cruel attitude by trying to get me to give up my business and complaining about my car, he wanted me to get rid of it and to shut down my business. According to this narcissist, I was trying to get rich to leave him… Can you imagine that? When he came back in my life the friends I had to disappeared, here I am again back to isolation, back to war, this time the war was for my sanity, my self-worth and the quality of life I had worked hard to give me and my children... I knew he would try to break me down to nothingness, but as I consciously watched the patterns replay themselves it is as though I could predict his next steps.

Actually, what I have learned is that, in a healthy relationship, your partner should encourage you to strive to become a better version of yourself. They should be helping you to achieve your goals, whether they are shared goals or not. Also, a healthy relationship is one in which you and your partner are continuously working to improve your quality of life together and to promote each other both in public and in private. This is never the case in an unhealthy relationship with a narcissist.

The narcissistic relationship is all about the narcissist, and it is all about promoting them while keeping you down. For instance; You keep the kids so they do not miss work, you are always home so