performance… the relationship would be nominated for sure! As the narcissist will continue to pretend to be the best possible partner for the victim and act like the most perfect person that existed.
Others in the victim’s life may not realize that anything is wrong even though the victim is not coming around much, this is because the narcissist will never make it appear as though they are the ones forcing the victim to pull away from their friends or families. Narcissist will act like the perfect partner and those who do see victim will think the narcissist is great for them.
Let me tell you how I met my (ex). I was 17 years old and he was 34 we met in a bar. I was with my best friend at the time, it was girl’s night out and my narcissist came over dancing and smiling at me. I remember my ex gave me a bottle to drink from and we danced all night as he then took me home and we continued seeing each other, I met his friends, his family, and he really treated me nicely or so I thought… After a couple of months dating, he then suddenly wanted me to stop talking to my best friend; he did not want me to hang out with her anymore, So I
Listened to him. Not long after that friendship ended I found out it was because she caught him cheating on me in the night club with another girl. Seriously, that is where the stage of Isolation began for me.
In private, the narcissist will continue to become more and more abusive. They may start with emotional abuse, name calling and begin to incorporate financial, physical, and spiritual abuse. They attempt to break the victim down in every aspect of their life, including their emotions, money, physical body, and spirit.
Actually, they only want to cause the victim as much pain as possible, as that is the only thing that a narcissist cares about, it’s the most important thing that matters to them. For this purpose, they will continue to manipulate the victims mind.
Mental trauma… at one point in my trauma, I was so broken to a point where I would drink every night in order to sleep, it’s as though I was non-existent to this person. Being an 420lbs empty shell of an existence in a home with no friends, no families, and living in a foreign country, I had become so isolated that I was not able to recognize my purpose any longer.