The GIT Girl Magazine Volume I: July/August 2014 | Page 8

LOVE... When He Won’t Commit Find out how to navigate your love life when the man of your dreams won’t take the plunge. I’m going to let you in on a huge secret. If more women understood this one thing about men, they would be more satisfied with their dating experiences. Here it is: When men date a woman, they don’t want it to be easy. They want to know what they’re going after is worth their time. Simple concept, right? But this simple fact keeps many women from finding love and the man of their dreams. Ladies, a worthy man wants a woman who makes them work for it. The want to know that the woman they’re pursuing thinks highly of herself and has high standards. After all, what self-respecting man wants a woman who doesn’t respect herself? Now that we all understand the basics, let’s move on to the real subject at hand. Why won’t he commit? Is he making excuses for why you aren’t moving to the next step in your relationship? There are three categories of men: 1. The man who wants to make the commitment. 2. The man who is genuinely commitment phobic, with or without good reason. 3. The man who just wants to pass the time with women. They have no intention to commit and will either say it straight out or give all sorts of excuses as to why they can’t take things to the next level you. It’s likely you’ve had experience with all three categories of men. So, how do you handle their failure to launch? 7 Maintain Your Standards When a man comes across a woman who will give him anything and everything from the beginning, he is delighted. But not for long. Eventually, he will question your values and will not feel that his commitment and love is worth spending on something so easy. It can be a huge turn off. Whereas, a woman who is selective and takes her time before moving from casual dating into a serious relationship inspires admiration and respect in a man. Keep Your Frien