KEEP THE LOVE LIGHT
GLOWING
by Rachael McCoy
Taking the time to cook your partner a nice meal is
a lovely gesture as it shows your spending time and
energy to do something thoughtful for them. Actually
sitting down and eating together (not in front of the
TV) is becoming less common these days too so make
sure the table is set and you can both talk about your
day/ week or life in general.
Get a red light bulb and swap it with your normal
bulb. It completely changes the look and atmosphere
in the room, instantly making it feel very seductive
and naughty.
Rachael McCoy is an
award winning sex and
relationship coach who is
driven and inspired by
helping others to achieve
the relationship and sex
life they have always
wanted. We ask her how
to keep the excitement
going after the sights and
the sounds of your
wedding day is a distant
memory.
Have at least one night a month where you
promise to turn all tech and outside distractions off
and just spend time together. In this modern day we
all have tablets, phones and other forms of gadgets
that distract us away from quality time together.
Aim to take it in turns to surprise the other person
with a gift or experience that they really enjoy. A
great tip on how to do this is to listen when your
partner says things they like. Make a note in your
phone and when they are least expecting it, spring it
on them. They’ll be so grateful that you remembered.
Erotic massage is a great treat that never gets old.
When you know your husband/ wife has been having a
stressful time, greet them one day after work with
some massage oil, a candle lit (warm) room and work
your magic to massage their stress away.
Going out with friends may not seem romantic at
the time but socialising and ‘representing’ as a couple
with friends is a really fun thing to do. In other
people’s presence we tend to be more playful. It will
give you lots of things to talk about and it’s something
you can both enjoy together.
Some spontaneous oral sex is always a
pleasurable treat for a loved one. Catch them when
they are nice and clean but not expecting your sexy
treat. Make the effort to spend a decent amount of
time working their ‘goodies’ with your lips and tongue.
For an incredibly sentimental gift idea, how about
putting together a collage of images. It will be even
more romantic if you do it for no apparent reason, just
to make them happy. There are plenty of apps that do
this now or you could print off your favourite picture
memories and cut them to fit nicely in a frame. It
proudly shows your declaration of love and will
definitely show your partner you care.
Doing things separately may seem the opposite of
romantic but actually it’s a very healthy thing to do in
marriages (and relationships in general). As much as
you love each other, living in each other’s pockets can
become suffocating and predictable. Doing hobbies
separately creates desire and interest into the other
person, giving you both some great conversation too.
Remember to show gratitude. In long term
relationships it’s easy to forget to say the little things
like ‘Thank you’ ‘I love this about you’ or ‘I’m so
grateful for’. This mainly happens because we’ve said
it so many times before and we just expect the other
person to know. But it is imperative that you always
remember to tell your husband/ wife these things
regularly. It will make all the difference to your
marriage and help ensure that it’s a long and happy
one. ∎
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