Advice Column
Q: How do you deal with our grade's crazy amount of work?
Mahek: Honestly, you’re not the only one struggling- this year has been tough for
everyone, but the key is to stay on top of your work each day and maintain an
organised mindset. Obviously, most of us fall into a pattern of procrastinating
because we feel we need a break from all the stress and while you most definitely
do, there are better ways to go about it. For example, every week choose one day
reserved for yourself- like a mental health day- and in order to make up for it, get
ahead of the next week if possible. Other tips and tricks to stay on track are
keeping your phone in a
different room, giving yourself a designated amount of time for certain assignments, and maybe even group studying.
Staying focused will genuinely be the death of me, but when I work with time constraints and self-made deadlines I
tend to stay more on track. It’s all about knowing what works best for you, so take the time to try out various work
methods and decide for yourself. Don’t be discouraged if it takes some time, because it will, just remember to stay
positive!
Q: As a new person, I just want to ask: are there limits to girl/bro code in a school as small
as AIS? I'm a firm believer in not shitting on your mates foot, but when there's only so many
options in regards to eligible suitors...is it okay sometimes?
Ellie: Lmaooo “eligible suitors”. I get you though, and I see how as a new person making new friends, you might want to
be wary of upsetting people with who you date. Honestly, I think just talk to your friends. If you fancy someone, but
you think your friend may have a problem with it/they have history with that person, just bring it up and see how
they’d feel about you dating that person. You can ask your friend “How would you feel about other people dating
(Freddy)?” and see how they respond. Or be straight up and say “If I dated (Freddy), how would you feel?” If they seem
chill with it, good for you, continue your business. If they seem apprehensive, maybe you need to consider how much
you like (Freddy) and whether it’s worth risking a possible friendship. You could also try convincing your friend to
see your point of view, they might come around. However, at the end of the day, your strong friendships are not worth
losing over a girl/boy. It’s all relative to your specific situation though, so if you really like this girl/boy, and your
friend just seems to be in the way of your happiness, maybe you should just go for it and put yourself first. Your first
step should be talking about it with your friend though, everyone appreciates a heads up and good communication.
Good luck! -Ellie P x