They might start to view you as someone who is trying to control them. A man ' s number one fear in relationships is that he will lose his freedom to have control over his own life.
This does not at all mean that you are not allowed to ask for your needs to be met or have objections to wet towels on the floor. But knowing how men interpret what we do and say gives you an advantage of HOW to speak so that you can actually be heard.
Here is a simple template of how to ask for what you want so your man can hear you; you can use this when " making a request to your man ". Now, remember, even the word " request " changes the energy of the conversation. A " request " implies that the other party has the option to say " no ". That in itself offers more freedom of choice to your man.
So try this template out next time something is bothering you and see how it goes:
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Article Source: Are You A Nag? " When( Objective observation of what is happening i. e " When I see wet towels on the floor ") I( feeling.. i. e " I feel frustrated and worried ") because( reason, i. e. " I value a clean house and I get worried about mold ".) Would you being willing( clear request; i. e to " hang up your towels right after your shower?) It would really help me out.
Notice that stating it this way doesn ' t put blame on your partner so he wont go into a defensive mode. Also you are telling him why you feel the way you do and you are giving him an option.
I hope this helps to bring more harmony into your relationships!
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