Let me put it this way...
Imagine that you just entered a new relationship.
And every time your new partner does or says something, you tell them how similar or different what they did or said is from your previous partner.
A day.
Maybe two.
No one likes to be viewed through previous experiences that are unrelated to them.
But that's exactly what we do when we self-censor our emotions.
Let's look at one more example:
Have you ever gotten into an argument with your partner about household chores?
They ask you if you've taken out the trash, and you instantly get defensive.
Then later, you look back and wonder why you reacted so strongly?
This happens because your unexpressed emotions change what you heard, from "Did you take out the trash?" to...
or, "If it's not done when I want it to be done, there's a problem."
When we refuse to identify, feel, and then release our emotions, everything we experience passes through the lens of those emotions.
But by releasing these old emotions, you'll be able to notice your inner state.
How you actually feel IN a situation.