Team Talk
The Gentlemen’s Club
Ways to show your wife you love her
The key to a successful marriage is putting your spouse’s needs ahead of your own.
Here are 25 practical suggestions gleaned from 25 years of happy marriage.
Listen
To be truly heard is the longing of every human heart, and your wife is no exception. It sounds
simple, but listening can be harder than it seems with so many distractions around us and within us.
Set aside some time every day to look into your wife’s eyes and really listen to what she has to say.
You may be surprised at what you hear. (James 1:19, Matthew 11:15)
Communicate
Don’t make her guess what you are thinking or feeling.
Sing Her Praises
Shamelessly brag about her good qualities and quietly pray about her bad ones. Her reputation is
your reputation. (Proverbs 31:28-29)
Pray For Her and With Her
Praying on your wife’s behalf not only enlists the help of the Almighty, but also puts her and her
needs at the forefront of your heart and mind, r ight where they belong. Praying alongside your wife
will strengthen your relationship like nothing else. Studies show that couples who regularly pray
together stay together, enjoying a 1% divorce rate compared to the usual rate of 50% or more.
(Philippians 4:6; Matthew 18:19)
Value Her Individuality
Your wife is wonderfully unique. Don’t compare her to your mom, or your ex-wife, or your old
girlfriend. Your mom may make the best chocolate chip cookies in the world, but unfavorable
comparisons won’t win you brownie points.
Put the Seat Down
Perpetually raised toilet seats are a pet peeve of wives everywhere. And while you’re at it, tidy up a
bit. A little consideration goes a long way. (Philippians 2:4)
Throw Your Dirty Clothes in the Hamper
It’s likely just a few steps from wherever you are dropping them anyway. Make this a habit, and it
will let your wife know your don’t consider her your personal maid.
Turn Off the T.V.
Lay aside the video games, pocket the iPhone, and shut off the computer, as well. It is staggering
how many hours we waste gazing at some sort of screen instead of interacting with the real people
in our lives. Consciously set limits on your tube-time, whatever form it takes. Use the time saved to
invest in your marriage: take a walk with your wife or play a board game together instead. (Psalm
90:12)
Loosen the Purse Strings
We all have to keep an eye on our budget, but an occasional splurge can be well worth it. Seemingly
frivolous things like flowers, jewelry, and overpriced restaurants let her know that she is more
valuable to you than a number in your bank account.
Practice Servant-Leadership
All organizations have a hierarchy. It’s impossible to function without one, but being a leader isn’t
the same as being a dictator. The best role model is Jesus Christ, not Joseph Stalin. Jesus washed his
disciples feet and then died on their behalf. It’s a challenge to exercise authority while maintaining a
spirit of humility, but that is what being a godly leader entails. (Matthew 20:28, Philippians 2:1-
8; Mark 9:35)
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