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Conflict resolutions tips for
parents and children
By PreSha Barnes
C
onflict is unavoidable. We
all want to be listened to,
respected and understood.
When this doesn't happen, we
often find ourselves in the midst of
conflict.
Encountering conflicts inside our
homes with our children is not
unusual. When there is a breakdown
in the support system at home, it
can result in our children questioning
our priorities. If feeling neglected,
children can become rebellious. This
ultimately leads to conflict. A conflict
is more than just a disagreement. It is
as an opportunity to see our children's
perception on things that are going on
in their world.
children resort to either the silent
treatment or arguing . As parents, you
are tempted to exact further discipline.
Quell your displeasure. Remember,
that whatever your child is feeling is
a result of what he/she understands.
Explain why you are disappointed and
the steps that are necessary for them
to earn privileges again. Do not allow
your child to go to bed angry with you.
A little understanding can prevent
future conflicts of a similar nature.
Listen
Conflict with our children must not be
ignored. We must be attentive and
listen to make sure that our children’s
feelings are priority. Here are a few
things we can do to resolve conflicts
when they arise.
Our children don’t have the woes of
adulthood, but they have their own
share of challenging experiences. If
your children are being aggressive
and rebellious, talk to them. Listen to
concerns or problems they may be
having. We often think their behaviours
are typical because they’re minors;
sometimes there are underlying
issues. Digging a little deeper can
help to uncover the real problem.
Don’t go to bed angry
Talk it over
Children will defy you to see what they
are able to get away with. The result
of defiance is usually a consequence
that your child will find unfavourable.
In retaliation to being disciplined,
Despite our best efforts, there will
be times when our children will fail
to adhere to the rules that we put in
place. After a challenging workday,
it doesn’t help if our children are the
source of even more chaos. It is easy
to go overboard with our reactions. At
times, the conversation becomes onesided. As the parent, you believe that
your word is the law. Take a moment
to settle before approachin