No one at the party reacted to me negatively, but somehow my mind conjured up this story and belief. It dictated my life for a long time until I became aware it. Once I became aware, I started to realize that my anxiety began long before the party. It started in the womb. My mother had a hard time emotionally when she was pregnant with me. There was no doubt that during this time she was anxious and probably depressed. I don’t blame her at all. This is all a part of life. Situations happen and we have to deal with it the best way we know how. However, parents need to be mindful that your emotional state can affect your children even before they are conceived, as stress hormones can be stored in your seeds or eggs.
I experienced firsthand how this struggle with anxiety affected my ability to achieve my goals and dreams as I became an adult. I would:
– be fearful of people’s opinions of me
– quit when things got to tough
– doubt my own abilities and talents
– dumb down and hide to fit in
– think of people being superior to me
– believe I was never good enough
Since then I have found ways to manage my anxiety after much research and testing. Here are a few of them:
1. Affirm yourself everyday. I recorded some affirmations that I use daily, and I also make them available to my clients who have found amazing results with them. Change the way you talk to yourself and how you feel about yourself will change.
You can access them here https://unlocktheyouwithin.com/courses/affirmationbundles/
2. Stick to a morning routine as it will help you to stay anchored and not easily swayed by your emotions. My morning routine comprises of, a gratitude prayer, simple exercises and stretches, affirmations and daily review/plan.
3. Change your diet and eat more fruits and vegetables. You can also take vitamin supplements, especially B-complex as this is vital to a healthy nervous system.
4. Try to avoid negative people and situations. Negative vibrations/energy are one sure way to trigger anxiety. Surround yourself with things that you love and elements of nature like flowers, water and even scented oils/fragrances.
5. Spend less time on your phone and social media. Each time your phone sends out a notification, it prompts you to respond. That’s not a great way to live if you have anxiety. Try taking off your phone if you’re not expecting any urgent calls, and respond to messages when you feel like doing it, not when you are being prompted. This gives you better control over yourself and your emotional state.
6. Be constantly aware of your triggers and write them down to track any patterns that you see occurring.
7. Lastly, design your life to have the least amount of stress as possible, and take time to yourself when you need it. Your goals can only be accomplished when you are in your best mental state.
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