Street Peeper Zimbabwe Street Peeper Bridal Issue 2017 | Page 8

If you're willing to cover expenses, ask her
how she feels about that. If she knows how
important she is to you, she'll probably feel
flattered, not insulted. If you expected a
friend to say yes and she doesn't, don't be
offended. Chances are it's no reflection on
you. Your friend is simply doing you the fa-
vor of being upfront and honest about the
time and money she wants to devote to your
event, an occasion she respects enough not
to ruin. "It's important to keep perspective,".
"Your wedding may not be the center of eve-
ryone else's year.
handed-down and that's that. For example,
you may be told your sister will be your maid
of honor, whether you like it or not. If you
have a big enough party, it may not matter—
a lot of your friends are included anyway. If
you were planning on a small party, consider
making it bigger to keep the peace. Even if
you can enforce your will and leave out a
family member who expected to be included,
consider the effect your stubbornness will
have on family harmony. "If you deliberately
leave out someone your parents or in-laws
want included, you may be making a bigger
statement than you intended
So try not to let it come as a shock if you get
turned down." If someone does accept and
Their conspicuous absence is a visible decla-
later seems unhappy with her decision, try to ration of your rejection. When it comes down
determine what's really going on.
to it, would including this person really ruin
your wedding day? Or will the repercussions
Blood Ties
of leaving her out sully family relationships
Resolving conflicts with parents and in-laws for years to come?
isn't always so simple. Sometimes an edict is