SteamPunk Chuck eMag Sept.2015 12-09-2015 | Page 22

Assistant Director of Photography we come from, life is hard at times. The darkest day of my life was when I had to assume the new role of Gold Star Mother. This role is reserved for those of us that have lost a child in military conflict. This has been a difficult and sometimes debilitating role to assume, but we don't get to choose the how and whys of life. We get to choose how we react to what comes our way. The reality is that life keeps going. We, as individuals have to choose if we want to participate or not. “ The philosophy that everything happens for a reason is not one that resonates within me, but I do believe that there is The reality is that life keeps going. We, as individuals, have to decide if we want to participate or not." Brandy Honeycutt Written by: Brandy Honeycutt good and bad in every situation. And there are lessons to be learned from every experience. I am a firm believer that time and memories are the best gifts. It is the memories we created and the love my son and I shared that has given me strength. I believe tragedy enhances our true selves, our strengths and weaknesses. For me, it put me in a place of gratitude for the time I had with my son and for the value I put on how I experience my life...for him, for my other son and for myself Our lives are defined by the roles we are born into, and the roles we assume. For me, my most important roles are mother, daughter, adventure seeker and lover of life in general. Based on the roles given to us, the paths we choose, and the choices we make as individuals, some of our characteristics are developed more predominantly than others. For me, being the daughter of a woman that worked in an environment dominated by men, embracing femininity was not a luxury we could afford and being emotional was viewed as a sign of weakness. This doesn't mean that being a woman was something to be ashamed of, but it means that not being strong and independent was shameful. I am grateful for the strength and resilience that I have within myself, some inherent and some learned. As a 42 year old woman, I have lived enough that I have had to choose 22 whether to let my hurt and hardships define me. Regardless of whoe we are or where