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My husband and I are thinking about financial and care arrangements for our young children but don't know where to start, please help!
Making a legally valid Will and updating it regularly is the only way to ensure that your wishes will be known and that your family will be safeguarded.
By having a Will you can appoint executors of your choice, and most importantly nominate guardians for your minor children. A valid Will nominating guardians is invaluable, as if no one knows what you wanted then the court will decide on the future of your children. By appointing guardians you can ensure that your children are looked after by the people that you have chosen. You may also wish to appoint alternative guardians, who will take their place if your intended guardians pass away.
Making a Will will also allow you to underpin your financial arrangements.
However, if you should die without having made a Will, your possessions will be distributed according to the strict legal rules (the Rules of Intestacy) and this could cause considerable hardship to your family and someone else will decide who will care for your children. By not preparing a Will you inevitably would cause difficulties for those you leave behind, at a time which is already distressing.
Making a Will is the only way to ensure that your wishes are carried out after your death. It brings security, reassurance and above all peace of mind – not just for you, but for all those who depend on you, either now or in the future. Don't leave it to chance or for someone else to decide for you.
Rosemary Slatter
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