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Your Schedule Doesn’t Lie
There’s an old phrase that says “what you’re doing speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you are saying.”
You can say that your primary value involves putting your family first, but if time with your family is not all
over your schedule, well then the truth of the matter is that your family life isn’t your priority. You can say
that being in world – class physical condition is another top value but if I don’t see five or six workouts
etched into your weekly schedule, then the reality to be confronted is that your health just isn’t an important
as you profess it to be. You can argue that self – development is an essential pursuit to you because the
better you are, the more effective you’ll be. Show me your schedule and I’ll discover the truth. Because
your schedule doesn’t lie.
There can be no authentic success and lasting happiness if your daily schedule is misaligned with
your deepest values. That’s a big idea that has been so helpful to so many of the executive clients that I
coach. If there is a gap between what you do and who you are, you are out of integrity. I call it The Integrity
Gap. The greater the chasm between your daily commitments and your deepest values, the less your life
will work (and the less happiness you will feel). Why? Because you are not walking your talk. Because your