medical help, just as many have failed-
attempt stories. We are not powerful
enough to trick, outsmart, or out-
medicate God.
3. Are babies born with fertility help
any less miraculous?
We get asked all the time if the triplets
were “natural,” most often by the
checkout ladies at Target. Our answer,
“The triplets were supernatural.” We
specifically prayed for three biological
children, for multiples, and for “God to
do more than anything we can hope or
imagine” (Ephesians 3:20-21) and God
answered. The fact that God answered
so specifically and so creatively is
nothing short of miraculous. God either
opens the womb or He doesn’t. Whether
a child is conceived through the help of
science, medication, a memory lapse
in taking birth control pills, or carefully
timed family planning; every child is a
miracle worthy to be celebrated. The
reason God sometimes uses medical
intervention is something we will have
to ask Him when we get to Heaven.
Every life conceived is equally valuable.
Every answered prayer for a child is
worthy of praise to our Lord.
4. How do I talk to my spouse about
going to the fertility doctor?
Be sensitive, be humble, be open,
and be loving when talking to your
spouse about seeking help. We can
all admit fertility is an awkward topic.
Saying “fertility doctor” always makes
me think of the monkey Rafiki from
The Lion King. The idea of talking to
a stranger about fertility issues can
seem invasive, embarrassing, and
weird. From my experience, fertility
doctors often have an honorary degree
in sensitivity training. I was amazed
at their ability to talk about bodily
functions while keeping a straight
face, but they do it! The doctor’s
appointment likely won’t be as bad
as you imagine it to be. Even if the
appointment is as bad as you have
imagined, with the alternative being
childlessness, it may be an awkward
appointment worth scheduling. Please
don’t write off fertility doctors and
treatment as too expensive before
researching your options. You would
be amazed at the different options and
programs for fertility treatment! Lastly
and most importantly, decide ahead of
time that your fertility struggle is no
one’s “fault” but is the path God has
destined you to journey together.
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