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STRESS AND SEX You’re well aware that stress isn’t good for you. Unfortunately, stress doesn’t just impact your mindset— it can impact your physically and sexual health as well. It can affect many different body systems and cause damage if a person is under chronic stress. Chronic stress can also increase your cancer risk. If that doesn’t convince you to try to chill out more, then stress can have a big impact on your sex life. Yes sex life! Stress attack on your libido is innate and during times of stress we need to survive, not procreate. Therefore, stress increases your body’s most important functions for survival, while diminishing non- essential functions, like sex. Unfortunately, stress can attack your sex life in several ways. One of the most significant ways is via hormones. Chronic stress can cause your body to produce too much of the hormone, cortisol, which can lower your libido and also throw your menstrual cycle off, which likely won’t put you in the mood, either. Stress even makes it harder to orgasm and can prevent a person from climaxing. Your biggest sex organ is your brain and if your brain is busy, it’s harder to focus on your arousal, the pleasurable sensations, or orgasm. Stress can also impact your sex life indirectly. The hormones produced when an individual is stressed can impact metabolism, which can in turn lead to weight fluctuations. Chronic stress may lead to depression and anxiety, and both conditions can get in the way of a healthy sex life. Some people who feel stressed complain that they aren’t in the mood to have sex at all, and if you tend to drink more when you’re stressed, you can experience decreased vaginal lubrication. Having a healthy outlet for your stress, like yoga, exercise, getting a massage, and even taking a bath, can help. It’s a good idea to do what you can to minimize stress or eliminate altogether, if possible. Intimatcy with your partner can actually help reduce stress, so it’s a good idea to try to prioritize some kind of couple time during the day. The feelings produced from sex are natural defenses against stress— closeness, attachment, and feelings of calm—so making time and space for physical intimacy isn’t at all fruitless, even if stress levels are high. If you’ve done all you can to get a handle on your stress but it’s still affecting your life, don’t be ashamed to seek help from a doctor or mental health counselor. The results can change your life in a very positive way. , www.slyoumag.com | July-August 2019 SL-YOU | Business, People & Lifestyle 29